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bear – ing n 1  the manner in which one comports oneself;  2  the act, power, or time of bringing forth offspring or fruit; 3 a machine part in which another part turns [a journal ~];  pl comprehension of one’s position, environment, or situation;   5  the act of moving while supporting the weight of something [the ~ of the cross].


  • “The typical American woman, of whatever age, height, weight, race, color, creed, or walk of life, is a profoundly confused creature.”

    A manifesto worth reading from Francis Porretto at Eternity Road.

    As I wrote in the comments, I think Porretto paints his "typical American woman" with a caricaturist’s brush, and he really should call her the "typical well-educated, upper-to-middle-class American woman…"  but he makes accurate points about certain social pressures.  Here are some he cites:

    • The female horror of aging.
    • The female fear of male infidelity and sexual caprice.
    • The numerous publications marketed solely to women, all of which promote some consumption- or glamor-based approach to achieving love and happiness.
    • The endless lists of products pressed upon women for beauty or glamor enhancement, all of which carry a subliminal message.
    • The pressures upon women to emulate male sexual aggressiveness and male proclivity toward polyamory.
    • The pressures upon women not to have children, against all the urgings and needs of their bodies.
    • The insistence by various cultural elements that, despite women’s yearnings for male companionship, support and protection, "a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle" — that women owe it to themselves to be independent of men, and that any compromise on that "ideal" is a form of self-betrayal, and the betrayal of the female sex.

    The synergy among these pressures could unhinge any woman. That we have as few female lunatics and child murderesses as we do speaks to some hidden reserve of endurance in the American woman’s psyche.

    Domenico at Bettnet (h/t) calls the post "thought-provoking."  I always think that is a bit of a cheat, when you don’t say what thoughts are provoked (much like "evocative" — what does it evoke?  or "progressive" — to what end is it progressing?)   So when I agree with Dom I’ll say what it provoked in me:

      I have to be careful when I read stuff like this or it makes me feel very smug that I got married and decided to stay home with my kids.   Smug = not good.

    — He’s really fortunate that the conversation with the "female colleague" he describes — the one where he tells her "It’s all I can do to keep my hands off you"  — didn’t end in a charge of sexual harassment.   (I believe his account of the conversation, which is not a harassing conversation, but ooooh, he’s lucky he didn’t get in trouble for that.)

    Do I look at sexily- or downright-immodestly-dressed, attractive women with "unconcealed resentment?"  I saw this one woman yesterday when I was out with my kids — it was 45 degrees outside and she was wearing a midriff-baring top and a cutoff skirt with a hem that grazed the lower curve of her buttocks.  Her friends were wearing fleeces and jeans.  She must have been freezing.  Silly girl.  Hm, does that count as resentment?

    Read it and tell me what you think..


  • Oatmeal cookies.

    There’s a recipe at the bottom of this post.  They are some of Mark’s favorites.  Think I’ll make some for him this week, minus the nuts, plus chocolate chips.

    I like raisins, myself.


  • Simplifying.

    Melissa commented to me yesterday that it seems we’ve all been cooking a lot more simply lately. 

    It surprises me to think of it, but she’s right.  I used to make curries, for example, all the time, mixing the spices myself and serving two or three dishes plus a raita.  I used to do a Szechuan-type stir fry once a week or so, with a lovely homemade sauce.  I used to make complicated French stews.  I used to make tostadas with home-fried tortillas, black beans cooked all day in spicy broth, and an array of freshly sliced vegetables.  I used to make authentic clam chowder and, oh, all kinds of lovely, complicated things.  Every week I would try two or three new recipes, because I liked to have a great deal of variety.

    What’s in my kitchen now?  Well, there’s a chicken roasting in the oven, there’s a salad chilling in the fridge, there’s a bag of shelled edamame defrosting on the counter, and there’s some broccoli waiting, unsteamed, in the steamer.  Simple.  (And don’t tell me that the edamame makes it exotic.  The stuff comes frozen, in a bag, on sale at the co-op.  It’s not much different from lima beans.)

    Everything’s gotten simpler.   I do still try a new recipe or two most weeks, sometimes even a fairly involved one.  But most of my meals these days are pretty square:  meat, veg 1, veg 2, veg 3.  Or:  soup, salad.  Or:  pasta, veg sauce, veg on the side.  Or:  omelet, salad.  Or:  all-in-one casserole. 

    Why is this?  It could just be a new phase of experimentation.  (It is nice to perfect and personalize American classics like meatloaf, or chicken with noodles, or tomato soup, or chili.)  And on my part, I’m sure, it’s because I’ve been eating lower-carb for a couple of years, and the meat-veg-veg-veg format works really well for that.  It might be lack of time, or lack of creativity, or just an inclination these days to concentrate on ingredients and taste each one, clearly and simply.



  • Lileks on Pink Floyd.

    I’m amused (but not to death).   We listened to a lot of Floyd in college.  Mark would turn up the heartbeat at the start of Dark Side of the Moon to show off his homemade subwoofers.

    Dark Side is brilliant, in the sense that music for the headset stoners can be brilliant, but it’s also overplayed and suffers from the usual lyrical deficiencies of the genre. Say, did you know that people often turn to religion and / or worldly pursuits to dull the pain of existence, with its attendant constant intimations of mortality? S’true, man.

    The target of the massively wealthy rock group’s scorn, however, seems to be men who are reasonably content in their office jobs. If there was any justice the world would have best-selling authors who took time off as a middle manager to write brilliant scathing novels about bitter stick-thin tyros who parlayed three chords and fashionable scorn into a license to get his groinal area pogo’d by interchangeable doxies while he suckled on a magnum of good champagne. Nightly.

    Then again, “The Wall” asked the question that bothers us all: how can you have any pudding if you don’t eat your meat? To this day I pose the question to Gnat. She, too, has no answer.

    I like Pink Floyd, but I can’t argue.  (Is Jethro Tull next?)


  • Poison control again.

    I’m getting pretty good at this.   Practice makes perfect.  Can I just recommend again that every family program the Poison Control number into all their phones?  Do it now:  it’s 1-800-222-2222.  And here’s the website of the American Association of Poison Control Centers.

    Hello, Poison Control.

    Hello.  My two-year-old son has eaten an unknown quantity, less than four tablespoons I think, of Metamucil brand powdered fiber laxative and dietary fiber supplement.  I am giving him a glass of water right now.

    How long ago?

    I just found him eating it.  About thirty seconds, I think.

    Okay, are there any other warnings on the label?

    It says, In case of accidental overdose call a poison center immediately.  And also, do not take without adequate amounts of liquid or choking may result.

    Okay, well, the choking is mostly aimed at elderly individuals who may have trouble swallowing, and the poison center text is a liability thing.  He will probably be fine.  He may have diarrhea.  If he develops diarrhea, keep him well hydrated.  Also, the stuff can irritate the skin, so watch for any blistering.  If he complains of stomach cramping, you can take him to see a doctor.  Otherwise, he’ll probably be fine.

    So diarrhea is possible, but a bolus of fiber won’t cause constipation?

    Probably not. 

    I guess I’ll carry a couple extra changes of pants with us today.  I’m also beginning to think that "Poison Control" should be one of my categories.


  • McMansions cost a lot to heat, apparently.

    The Star Tribune has a pretty good article on the disappointment of folks who now have to pay through the nose to heat their gigantic suburban houses:

    Eight years ago, Holly and Mark Batton built their 4,600-square-foot house in the rolling countryside of Credit River Township south of the Twin Cities.

    They saw their home, with its swimming pool and five bathrooms, as an investment they could enjoy as its value rose in fast-growing Scott County.

    The Battons belong to a generation of Americans who are living life larger than ever. Now, with energy prices driving up the cost of everyday life, they are also among a generation that is suddenly wondering if they’ve gone too far in pursuit of the good life…

    The Battons’ house, with a tax-assessed value of nearly $600,000, is merely of average size in Scottview Estates.

    In the Twin Cities and the surrounding suburbs, the home prices have been rising steeply for a number of years.  This is not just a pathological need to keep up with the Joneses, nor just conspicuous consumption, nor just the American taste for debt and distaste for savings.  Like it or not, there has been a strong economic incentive to build or buy the biggest home you possibly can, because everything is going up, fast.   So it isn’t as simple as "silly you, you bought more house than you need, you wasted your money."  People see these houses as something to invest in, for fast equity-building and profit. 

    Let me tell you a story of three  married couples I know.   In 2000 Mrs. A. was in graduate school and Mr. A. had just taken an engineering job.  Mr. and Mrs. O were both in graduate school, eking along on their two stipends.  Mr. T. was a grad student and Mrs. T. a stay-at-home mom, eking along on one (generous as stipends go) stipend. 

    The A’s said to each other, "Let’s not buy a house yet.  We haven’t time for the upkeep, we don’t want to have too much space or we’ll start acquiring a bunch of junk, married student housing is subsidized and so it’s a terrific deal, and we can both take the bus every day.  Besides," said Mr. A., "when my parents were first married they had to live in the attic above Grandma and Grandpa’s house.  We should be happy with what we have." 

    The O’s decided to buy a cozy little house in "Nordeast" Minneapolis the minute they decided to get married.     The T’s, while they were still living many states away, bought a tiny condominium in St. Paul without having had the chance to really explore their options.  "Too bad for them," thought Mr. and Mrs. A.  "Married student housing is such a great deal."

    Several years later, when the A’s finally got around to shopping for a house and were fainting at the prices of semi-run-down inner-city duplexes, the T’s and the O’s sold their respective dwellings at large profit.  In particular, the T’s condominium sold for nearly twice what they had paid for it.

    Do Mr. and Mrs. A wish they’d bought more house than they needed?  You bet your sweet bottom we do.  We might have sent a kid to college on the profits!

    ANYWAY.  That’s just a bit of local color.  The thing that people forgot is that big houses aren’t just a capital outlay; they have operating cost.   And that scales with energy costs.  And  conspicuous consumption is part of the problem.  But some of this is just because it actually appeared to make economic sense.

    Houses are still ridiculously overpriced.  Take a look at what $700,000 to $800,000 buys you in this town.  In particular, look at 2011 Fremont Avenue South.  It’s well-equipped, but… is it that well-equipped?  Do I live in San Francisco or something?


  • Sign me up, NOW.

    For the Society for a Moratorium on the Music of Marty Haugen and David Haas.

    The comments are amusing.  Here is a selection:

    I have been forcefed that abominable music for as long as I have been Catholic. It’s like the Care Bears’ Mass.

    Can we add Dan Schutte and Bernadette Farrell to the list too? And does anyone else think that "Gather Us In" was ripped off from the "Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald"?

    It’s not enough to be a member, all you church musicians out there! You have to NOT do this music at Mass, no matter what the liturgist tells you! You know who you are! I see your name on the list!

    I don’t know who "wrote" it, but did you ever notice that the tune to "Here I am Lord" is eerily like that of the Brady Bunch theme song?

    Maybe the Vatican will institute the Holy Office for the Inquisition of Really, Really, Really Bad Liturgical Music.

    As if that weren’t enough, there are parodies.  Everybody now, one two three!

    A Ditty to God (after Dan Schutte’s The City of God)

    Awake from your slumber, arise from your sleep;
    The homily’s over, it wasn’t too deep.
    He spoke of a ‘journey’, well, what else does he say?
    We’re all part of a ‘story’ as we go on our way.

    So let’s sing a ditty to God,
    It’s a way we can all be together.
    And we’ll be the City of God
    If we tell his story once more…

    And:

    Here I Am, Lord

    Here I am, Lord,
    I’ve got your pizza,
    And it’s only fourteen-ninety-five.
    Extra cheese, Lord,
    With pepperoni,
    And a little bag of peppers on the side.

    And:

    Gather Us In

    Here in this place, our comfortable parish,
    All of the statues carried away,
    See in each face a vacuous visage,
    Brought here by guilt or by R.C.I.A.

    Gather us in, by Bimmer or Hummer,
    Gather us in, so we can feel good,
    Come to us now in this barren Zen temple,
    With only a shrub and an altar of wood.

    H/t Darwin Catholic, I think.


  • An Episcopal priest leaves the ECUSA…

    …for the Anglican Mission in America. This mission is originally from Anglicans in Rwanda and Singapore to the North American people.  He tells his story here.

    Isn’t it great that Asian and African Christians are sending missionaries to North America?  I think so.  We need it!  Here’s more on the AMiA.


  • More from tsogb.

    The last post intrigued me and I spent some time reading The Scent of Green Bananas.

    Wow.

    Mmmmm.

    Just look at the pictures.


  • Is this what Chris ate in Spain?

    Chris, on a trip to Spain, told us about tocino del cielo.

    Is this it?  Money quote:

    It’s simple — just 25 egg yolks and a kilo of sugar.

    Another recipe, in which the egg yolks are diluted somewhat with egg white (nine yolks to three whites), is here.

    I think the English name ("egg flan") is boringly descriptive.


  • Rodent!

    Oo!  I’m an adorable little rodent!

    I better enjoy it while it lasts… this is from the Carnival traffic, I’m sure.  Soon enough I’ll be demoted back to Flappy Bird or worse.

    Unless some of you stick around and link again.