One of my midwives came to my house for a prenatal today. Mark wasn’t able to come to the last couple of them, so he made sure to come home from work for this one, which was nice.

Things are looking very good. My blood pressure is great, something that I am trying not to take for granted. The baby is head down and has got his body out of the posterior position; he still hasn’t rotated his head properly or tucked his chin yet, so he hasn’t descended much. Accordingly I am measuring a precocious 40 cm.

(H. and me on Monday, matching.)

I described having difficulty sleeping and was advised to drink tea made from hops. (“Wouldn’t a nice IPA work?” I asked. Indeed it will, but I guess it is more advisable to binge on hops via a herbal infusion.) I described having difficulty consuming green vegetables and was advised to blend extra spinach into my V-8. “A pregnancy speedball,” says Mark. “You could put hops and liverwurst in it too.”

All I want to eat are liverwurst sandwiches and ice-cold grapes and apples. And ice cream.

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While we were going over the birth supply list it occurred to me what we home birthers should be saying to the hospital birthers that is the equivalent of “But if you give birth at home, who cleans up the mess?”

It is this:

“But if you give birth in the hospital, who will make all the frozen herbal compresses?”

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I had a lot of anxiety prior to my last two births, throughout the whole of the pregnancies. I have not had much this time around, but I can’t escape it entirely. Now that we are coming down to the last six weeks or so, the “I am going to have to do this thing again and it might really suck” is starting to throb in the back of my mind.

The midwife says cheerfully, “Well, you are committed, and it’s going to happen and you’re going to do it, so you might as well not worry about it now.”

Mark says, “Wait till after Christmas to think about it. It will still be there to think about after the holiday is over.”

Then I start worrying about when I am going to find time to put up a Christmas tree.

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I am grateful to my oldest child for having basically figured out how to keep up with his schoolwork with only minimal interaction from me. I am grateful to my second child for making bread, shoveling snow, and cleaning the kitchen as well as having an insatiable appetite for science and history documentaries. I am grateful to my third child for being able to read well enough that she can do lots of math independently via khanacademy.org and lots of other studying via Quizlet. I am grateful to my fourth child for entertaining himself happily with Legos and toy cars and blocks for hours on end.

Sometimes it all comes together really well, and when that happens, I get to take naps. This has been a slow season for schoolwork. Mark sternly instructed me to prioritize gestating over formal schooling, and i have obediently focused on eating, sleeping, and pelvic exercises while letting a lot of other things slide. I think we are hitting the minimum, though, and I am really pleased by how well my eldest has stepped up to the plate and independently kept up with his subjects. It maybe will turn out to be a good dry run for the start of high school work next year.


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5 responses to “Six weeks or so.”

  1. “But if you give birth in the hospital, who will make all the frozen herbal compresses?”
    One of my favorite moments of my little sister’s first pregnancy this spring was when she told me she’d been making herbal compresses because her college roommate’s sister suggested it. She might have been aware of the compresses Dan and I made during my pregnancies, but childbearing wasn’t in her immediate future during those times. I recommended all sorts of things during her pregnancy while trying to hold back and be respectful and let her find her own way. Telling her to make compresses fell into the “way too hippie to even consider mentioning” category. Yet when a friend’s sister suggested it, she jumped on the idea. I love when she reaches the same conclusions as me.
    As an aside, we had remarkably similar first labors, with 4 days of prodromal, post-dates labor and then a long day in active labor. 9 years past, I’d started to wonder if I did something wrong that caused that labor to be so slow (despite a homebirth with chiropractor in attendance). Watching her live through it too helped me stop some of those what-ifs.

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  2. “But if you give birth in the hospital, who will make all the frozen herbal compresses?”
    Nobody! And good luck getting more than one ice pack.
    Although in my experience, my labor was so fast, my frozen herbal compresses weren’t. I’d asked about pre-making them, but the midwife assistant (who made them) seemed confident they’d be ready and frozen in time during the course of labor. Not so much. Of course it didn’t help she spent most of my labor running all over town looking for gloves.

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    Barbara C.

    In the hospital they basically take newborn diapers, somehow cut them open, and stuff them with ice. You can also get witch hazel pads to stick on top, or just stick on top of your maxi pad once you don’t need ice packs anymore.
    The hospital where I had the last four babies have wonderful nurses and aids that usually respond really quickly when you ask for a fresh ice pack.

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  4. You don’t have to cut the diapers/granny pads open. You just pour water or your therapeutic nether beverage of choice onto it and pop the whole thing in the freezer.

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  5. Laughing at “therapeutic nether beverage.”
    Wonder what that word looks like in German.

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