“I could never stay home full time. Locked in the house all day with two kids? No way.”

Possible answers:

1.   Oh come ON.  That’s ridiculous.

2.  Yes, that’s exactly what it’s like.  My husband chains the door every morning when he leaves from work and lets me out when he gets home.  It’s like that all over the block:  women with their noses pressed up against the glass.

3.  Take your pick.  You can be locked in the house, or your children can be locked in an institution.

4.  Yes.  Isolation can be a real problem.  But it can be overcome.  I have a wonderful network of friends who also care for their own children, and the time we spend together has pretty much eliminated all sense of being "locked in."   If you are willing to reach out to other mothers, so that you plug into a wider community, well, it’s really a very balanced and healthy existence.

Guess what I said.  Guess what I wish I’d said.


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2 responses to ““I could never stay home full time. Locked in the house all day with two kids? No way.””

  1. My wife’s life as a mother with at least 4 kids home for 10+ years was almost idyllic–she could (and did) pick up and travel to see her mom, my mom, and lots of her friends.
    Now that she’s confined to a work-life, she’s almost caged…
    Irnonic, eh?

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  2. I know what you mean. In the first year I was home, I felt like I was playing hooky, all the time.
    And it felt great! The kids and I had so much fun, blowing off housework for the day and going to the park or to friends’ houses.
    A lot of that newness has worn off by now, but it’s still good. I drive past the city on bright autumn days and think: I’m so glad I’m not in a cubicle in one of those skyscrapers.

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