There was this conversation I had with Mark before we got married. While we were engaged. It contained a significant exchange (who said what isn’t important):
I know you love me. But if you ever fall out of love with me — if you ever don’t love me anymore — will you promise you still will be married to me?
Yes. Will you stay with me, too, even if you fall out of love with me?
Yes. I do love you. But I will stay married to you even if some day I don’t.
So what I’m wondering is — do other people in love, engaged couples, have this conversation? Or is it all pledges of undying love?
What do you mean, `if I fall out of love with you?’ I am never going to fall out of love with you. Never. So don’t worry about that.
Because, well, that wouldn’t have been good enough for me. Or for Mark either. And I really don’t think that anyone should settle for undying love.
I’d like to think that everyone who’s planning marriage has the same conversation. But I worry that they don’t.
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